Following my experience of domestic violence and sexual violence, my recovery journey has constantly changed, with ups and downs and many unpredictable moments, good and not-so-good; probably much like that of many other victim-survivors. Whilst I was not so aware at the outset of what I needed in order to regain control of my life, different opportunities gradually emerged. Collectively, the experiences that enabled me to rebuild my confidence and find my voice have included: discussing language and terminology imposed on victim-survivors by outsiders to describe our experiences and locating this in context; exploring similar and different experiences with other victim-survivors; presenting papers in webinars; contributing at conferences; running training; sitting on a survivor steering group; and authoring chapters, articles, and books. These activities have helped me validate who I now am, and inform who I want to be.